A Military Family Cherishes the Family Time
Cherish the Family Time
Minus the global pandemic thing, the past few weeks have been what I have dreamt of… often, over the last seven years. Uninterrupted family time; bonding time where our whole ‘team’ is under the same roof and no one has to go to work or see to too many obligations other than loving on each other and making memories.
We are a military family. We have a different lifestyle than most and have grown accustomed to my husband being away from home more often than not. We are used to days, weeks, and months without seeing him in person. It’s not difficult, but I won’t go so far as to say that it is easy. I do, however, think that it gives us a unique perspective on all of this social distancing and isolation stuff. We cherish the family time that we are given, because it is not our norm. Now, don’t get me wrong, we have definitely gotten on each other’s nerves a few times over the past few weeks; but all in all, we are truly loving the fact that we have nowhere to be and nothing to do other than be a family, in our little bubble, safe for now.
The month of the Military Child
April is the month of the military child. My husband and I have three beautiful military children, the newest of them being less than a month old! This time of quarantine and social distancing is the exact opposite of what our family was scheduled to be going through right now. My husband was set to leave for a training rotation for the entire month of April. He was supposed to board a flight, two weeks after the birth of our daughter, and leave me with the three children while he flew across the country to do Army-things. We would not have been able to talk to him at all for most of the month.
The silver lining of this global pandemic for our family is absolutely not lost on me. Having my husband home during this crazy period with a newborn and two rambunctious toddlers is saving me on a mental as well as physical level. I have also witnessed the strengthening of bonds between my husband and the children with him being home to interact with them throughout their entire day.
Find Joy in all Situations
Our children are no strangers to change. This change in schedule has not been easy, but I do believe that our military lifestyle helps them adapt well to chaos. I love that the chosen flower of the military child is the dandelion, which can root anywhere the wind blows its seeds, and survive in almost all climates. Military children develop incredible resiliency as they grow.
My own children are still very young, and this life that we have chosen for them has only slightly affected them thus far, but I know that the life skills they develop during their school-aged years, will help them greatly as adults in the world. At times it will seem incredibly unfair to their fragile hearts and minds; in fact, it is.
My husband chose this life of service. I chose to join him and we became a team, together. Our children did not choose this. They were born into our family without knowing what was in store. Without the awareness that Daddy would be gone for major life events, that we would move houses, states, even countries, every two to three years, leaving friends and loved ones behind as we trek toward our next Army adventure. In spite of this blissful ignorance, they take everything in stride and are honestly a fantastic example to myself of how to roll with life’s punches and find the joy in all of our situations.
This month, I celebrate them and all of their wonder. I celebrate what they have been through thus far and what is to come for them. I celebrate the uniqueness of each child and how they take the tools for life that I provide them with and adapt those tools to mesh beautifully with their individual personalities. This month may not be very different overall from the other months of the year, but I am thankful for a specific reminder to celebrate my three wonderful creations, this year and every year.
“The official flower of the military child is the dandelion. Why?
The plant puts down roots almost anywhere, and it’s almost impossible to destroy. It’s an unpretentious plant, yet good looking. It’s a survivor in a broad range of climates.
Military children bloom everywhere the winds carry them. They are hardy and upright. Their roots are strong, cultivated deeply in the culture of the military, planted swiftly and surely. They’re ready to fly in the breezes that take them to new adventures, new lands, and new friends.”
Brianna, or Brie as most people call her, is an aspiring earth mama, currently raising her three flower children in Central Texas. She is a Long Island native with a passion for fitness, the outdoors, being creative, and the Atlantic Ocean. She has been married to her college sweetheart, Cody, for six years and together they have lived in five houses in three different states. Brianna has a Masters Degree in Athletic Training and is also a certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist as well as a 200-hour Registered Yoga Instructor. Her favorite activities are running, cooking delicious vegan meals, and learning more about sewing. She adores being a Stay-At-Home-Mom and pseudo-educator to the brilliant minds she is raising. She believes strongly that compassion should always come before convenience and that there is little in life that cannot be fixed with some fresh air and sunshine. If that doesn’t work, try adding some avocado!